I attended a business seminar several months ago. One of the core teachings of this teacher was “clarity equals power”. Sure, that’s great. But there’s one problem…how do you get clarity in the first place?
I am finally at a point in my life where I have unbelievable clarity. I KNOW what I want to do in this life that best utilizes my talents and passions. Clarity is indeed power. I know that now. Getting to the point of clarity however was tough. I want to share with you my process. This may not work for other clarity-seekers out there, but maybe it can be helpful.
1. Make amends with the past. There were people I needed to make peace with, either by talking to them, or forgiving them in my own mind. There were movies I needed to see again, music I needed to hear again. These things helped me make peace with difficult times in the past. I learned to embrace that young girl I once was and realize that she did the best she could with the limited knowledge she had back then.
2. Become quiet. You want to get to a point where you can hear that tiny voice in your heart. Once you can hear that, clarity will come easily because it tells you exactly what to do. But I had to distance myself from the “outside world” as much as possible. I didn’t listen to any news or other media, no tv, I didn’t hang out with any friends during this time, not even phonecalls. I tried to put myself in isolation as much as possible. Once I blocked out the outside, then it was time to block the chatter of my own mind. Super tough! But I would make an effort to focus on the present moment. It was during this time I really started to dream big again. I’d forgotten how to do that. But I found my passion and the clarity was very apparent.
3. Make fear your friend. Once you hear that little voice and you know what needs to be done, the absolute hardest part is DOING IT. It is so scary. Sometimes I feel like a total fake pretending to be something I’m not…yet. I had to come up with a way to push through the discomfort. Also, I make sure to be uncomfortable every single day. It’s so easy to say, “Ok, I stepped outside my comfort zone now I’m gonna relax the rest of the week.” No, you have to keep pushing it everyday. Otherwise you loose momentum and have to start all over again. And what a drag that would be! That’s a great motivator right there!